Jealousy with enough reason can be healthy but repetitive and out of reason can be a threat to a relationship and most of all to the jealous person’s life. It is something that should be taken care of because jealousy can be a sickness that only mental hospital can heal. Seriously, jealousy is a cancer, if you let it kill you. (You can only find this quote here.)
There are some people that I know of having this kind of sickness. Of course, I will not type the names in here. I may say, I have a benign jealousy because I took care of it before it got worst. I would be too hypocrite if I say I never get jealous. Hello, I am a human being. I guess, we all get jealous although we have our own way of dealing with it. I have my own way.
When I was in high school, I get jealous with my classmates who have new shoes, new bags, and brand new stuffs. I was even jealous with my spoiled brother back then he was getting new stuffs from our parents being the only son. That is materialistic jealousy. I was and sometimes I am jealous with people who were/are taller than me, those long legged chicks and breathtakingly beautiful and smart people. That is physical and mental jealousy, in short, insecurity. And oh, the first time I joined "blogger", I was jealous with bloggers who can make beautiful customized layouts. I guess that is ability jealousy.
How did/do I deal my jealousy and insecurity? I just keep it and use it to get myself be motivated in life. It motivated me to get better, improve my talents and my entire self. My jealousy and insecurity to the people became admiration and inspiration. It made me realized that jealousy or insecurity can't be bad all the time because I used it as a helpful tool to improve myself and discover my own unique qualities. I didn't and don't plan to let it Kill Me.
When I was in high school, I get jealous with my classmates who have new shoes, new bags, and brand new stuffs. I was even jealous with my spoiled brother back then he was getting new stuffs from our parents being the only son. That is materialistic jealousy. I was and sometimes I am jealous with people who were/are taller than me, those long legged chicks and breathtakingly beautiful and smart people. That is physical and mental jealousy, in short, insecurity. And oh, the first time I joined "blogger", I was jealous with bloggers who can make beautiful customized layouts. I guess that is ability jealousy.
How did/do I deal my jealousy and insecurity? I just keep it and use it to get myself be motivated in life. It motivated me to get better, improve my talents and my entire self. My jealousy and insecurity to the people became admiration and inspiration. It made me realized that jealousy or insecurity can't be bad all the time because I used it as a helpful tool to improve myself and discover my own unique qualities. I didn't and don't plan to let it Kill Me.
When we were engaged to be married, the jealousy with that Cebu girl was still there plus the jealousy with his work. There were times I felt like he was setting me aside because of his work when he couldn’t answer my calls at first ring and when he couldn’t replied right away to my messages. Sometimes I was thinking of him being with other girl at work. That was the reason of our fights most of the time. Later on, I realized it cannot do well for me and for our relationship. There should be trust for the relationship to work and of course, loyalty and faith. Recently, I was surprised when I learned that my husband’s workers at work know me because hubby had this picture of me displayed on his office table. I was like wow! Those jealousies of mine were of no use then. See, sometimes we are really so way out of line. Again, I didn't let jealousy Kill Me.
Now that we are married, there are no reasons for us to get jealous with each other. He very well know I love him dearly and I have no plan on doing something bad that can make him jealous because I definitely know how hard it is to be jealous. It’s a no joke feeling. As for me, I don’t see any reason to get jealous so far. My husband is being a good husband to me 101%. With the love and care he is giving me, i couldn't ask for more. The only problem I have with him now is his drinking habit. Maybe I can say, I am jealous with his beer. Lol! I don’t want him drink because that’s when he's getting guts of voicing out his jealousy.
To sum it up, we are getting over with fights regarding jealousy but we both have a quote for each other:
To sum it up, we are getting over with fights regarding jealousy but we both have a quote for each other:
Mine:
If you do something bad (cheat), don't let me catch you.
Hubby:
If you do something bad (cheat), I'll kick your butt.
First Commenter
Ang mas maayo nalng jd nga quote sis, "never cheat" lol.
Bata mo pa kasi sis kaya nagseselos ka sa mga material na bagay, or sa ex gf ng hubby mo.but what is important is you know how to take care of our jealousy and prevented to get worst.
So what happen to the cebu girl now sis? hehehhe You are smart young lady chie. and Its obvious that your hubby nahubog na sa imu kaysa iyang beer so tangtanga ng selos sa lawas, tagay sd ug beer aron atbang mo hehehehe
Wow! That's a great explanation of all the classifications of jealousy. I envy those who know how to make beautiful lay outs, and it cannot motivate me to try to do my own, kase la ako talent, hehehe.
Bakit kaya ganon, kapag nagseselos na tayo, ang sama na ng ating iniisip, kaya minsan di maganda ang nagiging resulta. We need to know how to talk to our partners about what we feel inside. Especially when it comes to jealousy, kasi baka selos ng selos, useless naman pala di ba? tayo ang gumagawa ng sarili nating problema, kaya bago magselos, magtanong muna. Unless na mahuli sa akto, then sibatin natin sa ulo at ng di na uli mag cheat, hahaha! joke lang.
Naku girl pareho tayo ng pinagseselosan...and beer ng hubby ko rin...hahahaha... Kaya lang yon na nga ang sa kanila, ikukubli pa ba natin,di ba? Kaya segi maglasing ka kung kaya mo...hahaha
I like those quotes...hehehe
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hehe parang CASH MO TO sa wowowee.. panalo!well explained ang iyong jealosy topic.. hindi kita masisisi kung sa bandang huli eh nagselos ka sa beer. kasi ako kahit sa sa paninigaarilyo nia nagseselos ako.. ang sa akin kasi, nauubos ang oras na magkakausap kami sa isang araw dahil sa mga bisyo na hindi nman nakabubuti.pero ano pa nga ba ang mgagawa natin kundi tanggapin kung ano na ang nakasanayan nila di ba? at tama lang na lahat ng pinag uugatan ng selos eh pinag uusapan..
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i don't get jealous with the beer... i sometimes tell him not to because its expensive... waaa kuripot!!!!
we do drink beer sometimes together its funny but we do have fun
weehh i am the one pushing my hubby to drink beer sometimes lol but he doesn't like it, there is one time he throw it in the kitchen sink when my brother in law gave him a glass of red horse, of course he did it when brother in law was not around. and I was the only one who knew about what he secretly did
hahahahaa!!At least,beer lang ang kalaban mo lol!!^_^I love your quotes to eche other that reminds me we should have one--or should we??DI naman marunong magselos ang asawa ko lol!!He's the silent type naman kasi.
Happy CC!!
I agree with tsang shy, never cheat would be the best..
You are right, we should not let the jealousy kill us first...then regret after lol! Anyhow, trust is the key, we maybe clouded with jealousy sometimes but we know..it is a womans instinct that our husband is cheating on us..hinde yan mapag-aaralan sa school hehe it is in us totally. For me cheers!!! -wink-
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waaaaaaa....kuyaw kay beer man diay ang katapat....:)
thanks for sharing sis....sos kung mag cheat lagi kay mayg d maputlan ug ikog...lol!
ma flying kick man jud ang dragon balls Z...lol!